Nothing tests your relationship with your spouse or SO more than bringing a child into the mix. We’ve got a few tips to help ease the transition from two to three.
Though your life is likely already chaotic pre-baby, put this one other thing on your to-do list: allot some time to discuss in depth how you and your partner will be sharing responsibilities. The hope is that if you approach the onset of baby-related chores and responsibilities with organization, you ultimately save yourselves the trouble of figuring it out after the baby is born, when you’re likely going to be at your most overwhelmed and under rested.
Start Dating Again
Of course, post-baby probably feels like the worst time to start investing time into planning and going on dates, what with the sleepless nights and no time to even do your laundry, but not putting emphasis on the relationship is a mistake that could end up negatively affecting your relationship long term.
Invest in Help
You might be able to do it alone, but enlisting the help of family, friends, or even hired help, (if it’s within your means), will save you an enormous amount of stress, which will allow you to be a better version of yourself for your child and for your partner.
Talk Thoroughly and Often
Perhaps this could happen during the aforementioned date nights, or perhaps it could happen when one of you is in the shower and the other is brushing their teeth before bed or first thing in the morning. Whatever time you can manage, dedicate to conversing about your changing lives and make sure you never stop. Voice your frustrations as well as the things you’re enjoying or feel that you’re doing right. Sharing these kinds of things with your partner will ultimately make you closer and ensure that you are on the same page.