5 Things You Should Never Say to Your Spouse

You know that look you get from your spouse when you say  something you really shouldn’t have? It makes you want to cringe and want to go hide in the corner.  Here is a list of things that probably are not a good idea to say to your spouse.

I can’t forgive that:  Ouch!  Telling your spouse that you can’t forgive a mistake tell them that there is no hope.  If the situation is extreme and you feel like you need time, be honest.  Instead, say “I am really hurt and I am going to try to forgive you but I really need you to give me time.”

That’s stupid to care about!:  This is basically saying that the things he/she feels deeply about doesn’t matter to you.  This will create feelings of tension in the relationship which can create a rift between you and your spouse.

It’s Your Fault!:  Ok, so maybe it is their fault;  but you saying that out loud and with anger only tells your spouse that you think you are “better” then them because they messed up and that puts them under a burden of guilt.

Well “Kevin” (your bffs husband) wouldn’t do it that way: Not only will this bring down your spouse and make your spouse feel like you don’t trust them, it may also cause feelings of jealous if your spouse takes it to mean you would rather be with someone else.  No one wants to feel like they are not right in their place beside you.

This is why my my mom doesn’t like you!  (Or any form of aligning loyalties with someone else):

When you say that phrase to your spouse/partner, it digs up tension and anger from past hurts caused by the relationship between your spouse and this other person.  It only drives a wedge into your relationship and leaves your spouse/partner feeling like you are no longer on their side.  A lot of people do that without realizing it and the problem only gets worse.

None of these things are ideal to say to your spouse. It’s one big NO! NO!